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My Why, Your Why, and Why we Should Ask Why

Written by: Blake Costalupes

After writing a series of blog posts for my Talent Development class at Fresno State University, I decided that the idea of a platform where coaches can learn and discuss topics related to what they love (assuming thats coaching), would be something worth continuing...

So here it is. And "Who am I?" you're probably asking. Great question. My name is Blake Costalupes. I am soon entering my last semester at Fresno State, where I am earning a master's degree in Sport and Performance Psychology. Along the way I have gained a great interest in why people do what they do. What drives the best to be the way they are? Is it an inherent talent? Is it teachable? Coachable? So here in lies my why: I want to help others discover their purpose for doing what they do. I want to help others to be the best version of themselves possible, and in turn to help others help those around them to do the same.

Disclaimer: Now, in no way am I an expert in this field (yet!). In fact, I am just a beginner. But my education has given me a starting point, and an ability to effectively seek, internalize, and deliver knowledge.

So for this blog, my mission is to deliver to you (the coaches) what I have learned and continue to learn through science-based research on the newest and most current evidence in coaching literature. I will also share resources that I have been exposed to, or discovered,  and that is utilized by some of the greatest coaches, athletes, and performers in the world.

But first, What is your why?

Maybe you are a first year coach, thinking about becoming a coach, or maybe you have been coaching for many years. At any stage, it is never too late to sit and ponder your purpose (your "why"), for getting up every morning and doing what you do each day. It can be a powerful thing. And a strong "why" can be a guiding light throughout your journey and coaching career, especially when the going gets tough.


A great resource that I have found on information related to finding your "Why" and how to keep it front and center in your life, and on many other things Sport Psychology, is a podcast titled High Performance Mindset with Dr. Cindra Kamphoff. In the episode titled "What is Your Why", Dr. Kamphoff gives four questions to ask yourself when trying to identify your "why":

  1. What gives you energy?
  2. What are 3 or 4 times you felt most alive?
  3. What do you love to do that you would do for free?
  4. What would you want your legacy to be?

Take some time to write these questions and your answers down on a piece of paper, or your phone, computer, or anywhere that you can easily access them to remind yourself why you do what you do. This concrete mission statement can be a useful tool to keep yourself poised and fueled throughout the year.

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